She said: I sure hope not!

But, I’ve seen men relax in the planning department, once they have secured their lady. In the beginning, when men are in the process of courting a woman, they tend to spend extra time finding new and exciting things to do together. For some unknown reason, the roles change after an unsaid amount of time and women end up being the ones that take over planning and organizing activities. This may not be true for every relationship as there are always exceptions to the rule. And men, I am also aware of the fact that women also relax in other areas, but that’s another topic for another week!

The truth is planning takes time. One person, woman or man, shouldn’t have to handle the task alone. Doing your research includes reservations, tickets, addresses and directions, phone numbers, and reviews from other people. If the woman is the only one handling these things plus keeping in mind conflicting schedules, she will not stay happy. She will enjoy it for a little bit, but will start to feel like it’s a chore as opposed to another opportunity to spend time with her man.

It is true that many women, at least the ones I know, are very organized and have the skills necessary to plan a perfect evening, weekend, or complete vacation. However, these skills come from experience; the planning ‘gifts’ are not necessarily ones you’re born with. Men can do it too!

The Internet is your friend. There is a wealth of information available at your fingertips. There are really no excuses that I can think of. If you don’t have access to the Internet, then pull out the phone book and start making calls. Ha-ha! Anything you can think of can be learned about and planned with this tool.

Do you think that women are too picky? Or you don’t know what she’ll enjoy doing? I can’t speak for them all, but I’m pretty sure that someone that cares about you will make an effort to do something outside of their comfort zone and vice versa. I say, alternate the task of organizing date night and different holidays so that it feels like less of a duty and more FUN!

If a woman has to do this by herself, she will lose her mind! Or at least I would.


He said:In a word, yes. In a sentence, I do believe women are destined to be the planners.

Now as much as I am an opinionated guy, I really cannot say I can form an honest opinion about what color or for that matter fabric, my couch should be.

I can’t say that I have honestly ever pictured the setting my perfect date should have, nor have I imagined my wedding day and what the theme would be like.

I can’t say that when I travel to a new place, that I have thought beyond getting there and seeing what it’s like. To be quite honest, my thoughts didn’t stray beyond where I would stay. The rest “would fall in place” as they say.

I can say that every time, and I do mean EVERY time, that I see a movie with that guy that does elaborate planning to surprise his girlfriend, wife or special someone, I wonder exactly what did I miss in my childhood in becoming him.
Now I have done the odd surprise here and there, I have hurt my head in trying to determine just what “she” might like, or like a lot, searching for that perfect gesture. The result has been; hit or miss.

Either she loves the gesture, or loves the thought, but at the same time hates the idea. Women love to picture being wined and dined and swept of their feet, but this very picture, is a picture that they have planned out themselves. You picture a man doing the things that YOU would HOPE he does to sweep you off your feet. It suggests then that women have ideals as to how all things men and women should go.
It suggests then that even in not planning an occasion, women have an idea as to just how it should be planned, and run, and look, in any case.

In defense of all men, it’s not that we don’t plan, but our plans often fall short of the things women take into consideration when planning. For those ladies lucky enough to have that guy (the one that plans down to a tee and never disappoints, you know the one that’s played by a “Di Caprio type”), you should hold onto him like grim death. For the rest of you, aside from the sporadic works of genius, be prepared, you will be the one on the drawing board for a long, long time.

Motto: If you want things done right, you got to do it yourself

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Dr3 & Sammy-Jo


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I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

The wise words of Mark Twain.



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I've heard my fair share of 2009 BET Awards bashing. Keep in mind that BET is a live show with real people. I'm posting this because Maxwell's Pretty Wings performance was amazing, but was overshadowed by so many other happenings that night. Here's a refresher of the greatness.

Let me start this off by saying TGIF! I wasn't sure if I was going to make it through, although I only had two days at work this week. The transition back to Eastern time was not as smooth as I would have liked it to be.

Now that it's Friday, I finally have enough time to share my surprise with you. During my Hollywood trek, I literally stumbled upon the largest memorial I have ever seen. While wandering Hollywood Blvd, after my hike, I wound up stuck in a huge crowd of people lined up and hovering around Michael Jackson's star about 2 days after his death in Los Angeles.



I'm going to do my best to describe what I saw.

There were hundreds of flowers piled on top of each other. Some in plastic and some formed wreaths. All different types: roses, sunflowers, carnations, daisies, even palms.




The star itself was sectioned off by several metal bars so that people could line up without blocking off the sidewalk. On the side closest to the street, is where the flowers, candles, poster boards, wreaths, and other gifts were lined up. Many television vans, cameramen, and reporters were set up there to capture the site

Some people were sobbing uncontrollably, wiping tears, and hugging loved ones.

Some people lined up for hours, some with small children, to kneel beside the star for pictures.

Some just kept on walking.



There was a large black plaque with pictures of Michael. People signed and left there well wishes and condolences to the King of Pop and his family.

It was quite a sight for me; considering I wasn't even looking for it. I didn't know it existed.

The intentions of the people seemed good and pure, however I can't help but feel a 'way' about the fact that people are praising the man now - after he's dead and gone.

Why is it so hard to appreciate something you have while you still have it? I think we are all guilty of this, myself included. We all take several things in our lives for granted without ever thinking about what it would be like if they weren't there.

Michael Jackson's memorial on Hollywood Blvd exemplified this fact of life. Make an effort to tell those you care about that you love, need, and couldn't live without them.

And PLEASE give them flowers while they are still alive to smell them.







xoxo,
S

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I am realizing more and more that there is one huge misconception between men and women as far as friendships go: women actually believe guys just like being nice to, and doing favors for, and being friends with, women. (Really?)

Ladies:-

The cold truth; NO MAN wants to be your friend. Might sound extreme or ridiculous, or even insane, but this is the truth. No man has ever aimed to be your friend. Women are way too demanding for any man to just willingly enter into a friendship. Women need everything from time to alcohol in order that a friendship works; a reality that is as clear as day. Now don’t get me wrong, a man would settle for friendship, but trust, that’s not what he wanted.

There are two types of men that exist as far as this goes and I will shed light on them.

1. The one that “plays his position”; he settles for less, and takes friendship on like a champ, no complaints, anytime, whenever you want. He’s also the guy that somewhere deep down inside is holding out, waiting for his chance, the day you call his name.

2. The one that never settles for less, and as such once he realizes nothing is happening, he moves the hell on. May say hello, even talk to you from time to time, but he’s definitely not what you would call your guy friend, and he definitely is not the one you call for favors and other ridiculous stuff.

Women believe in this handyman that enjoys their company and presence so much so that he’s willing to bend over backwards, and is on call 24/7. He’s a myth. The dude you pictured when you read that sentence, probably pictured you naked at that same time (if you don’t want to hear me please listen to Steve Harvey. )

Of your guy friends right now, how many of them can you say truly never seemed to be attracted to you, or never made a move etc, etc?
If the answer is none, then you my friend are in denial. Don’t be technical in your assessment of what a guy friend is.

Alright maybe there are like 2 exceptions in the whole world (I admit). But otherwise,

Sorry,

We like you,

but just not that much.


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